Healing isn’t just about understanding your story. It’s about learning what is yours to carry and what isn’t. In this week’s Good Bones reflection, I explore the questions that transformed my understanding of grief, boundaries, and responsibility.

If you met Susie, one of the first things you might learn is that she is proud of her short fuse. She says it like a warning and a badge of honor. She does not let people push her around. She does not wait quietly when something is wrong. She speaks up, demands answers, and usually gets what she came for.

In some situations, that can look like a superpower. Susie gets the answer, the apology, the table moved, the bill corrected, the phone call returned, or the problem handled while everyone else is still deciding whether they should say something. But the same thing that gets Susie results also costs her.