When Mom Becomes Consultant

n general, the early years often require more cop energy, the teen years often call for coaching, and the adult years invite more of a consultant role. But children do not grow on a perfect schedule.

These roles are not set in stone. They grow and shift as the child grows and shifts. Sometimes the cop season lasts longer. Sometimes the coach season begins earlier. Sometimes a mother has to move back and forth between roles depending on the child, the situation, and the level of responsibility the child is ready to carry.

That is not a reflection of failure. It is part of paying attention.